The Pursuit of Purpose

2 May 2015

Good morning loves!

Well, I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t been a minute! Lol!

I’ve been thinking long and hard about what my first article back on the blog would be about and figured it should at least come with a “BANG“, or something of that nature.

I’m not sure if that will be the case today, but I’m most certainly going to give it my best shot.

Most of you already know that I’m not hyped about 24/7 hour shifts in Cyber land, but I do whole-heartedly believe that “if anything is worth doing, then it must at least be done WELL, or not at all”.

Being off social media (and particularly the blog) for a little over a month helped me put quite a number of things into perspective, namely : finding the right balance between working on & attaining my real life goals, all the while cultivating & sustaining a sort of fictitious/virtual existence on social media. Because let’s be honest here, that’s sort of what it IS (at least for a large part of the virtual community) : you “wake up, dress up, and SHOW up”, coffee shots and selfies included!

I know many of you, especially bloggers, can identify with the disillusion, and eventual ‘paranoia’, that come from suddenly being a sort of, “cyber-star”!

Everybody seems to love and worship you, swearing by every fashion or lifestyle choice you make. Normal – you’ve become an “ideal”…a sort of “Virtual God”. In YOU we trust!

Your life, or rather, your “virtual” life has taken airs of a dramatic soap opera, complete with prose-like comments and heart-eyed emoticons.

And yet ironically, somewhere, far away from the ego-comforting wish-wash, where “straight talk” and “realism” reside, thrives an unwavering and persistent fear of potentially “losing it all“.  For instance, the anxiety of potentially missing out on the action when you’re off social media a whole day, let alone a week, and imagining having to bid farewell to a few prized followers in the process, for some, is a nightmare close to none; All because you didn’t show today – REAL life priorities obliged!

THIS, friends, is the melo-dramatic reality of being “out there”, surfing the frenzy cyber wave.

But the question isn’t necessarily “whether or not you are ready for virtual fame” but rather “how far you are willing to go to keep the virtual flame burning“? Where does one draw the line between pursuing cyber ascension and staying grounded?

In a world where social media and the place we occupy in it has been outrageously blown out of proportion, it’s maybe time we took a step back and measured our subsequent choices against our priorities.

It is time we realized that purpose & significance in life do not fit into a 2-inch screen. They are neither measured by our virtual popularity nor by the number of people we manage to convince “how cool” we are. All efforts towards any kind of success should not be aimed at “being loved” but instead encourage “respect“, promote “excellence” and be directed at “being significant“.

Much love to you all

Teekay xx

Wearing :

Coat (Vero Moda)
Satin pants (Mango)

Chiffon Blouse (H&M – Conscious Collection)
Silk pants (H&M)
Shoes (Valentino)

Bag (Drew by Chloé)

Watch (Parfois)


All images are Copyright©
Photos credits by Nanamybrass
Thank you for stopping by.



  1. Sanchita

    2 May 2015 at 10:24 AM Reply

    Teekay, the camera absolutely adores you! Beautiful shots as always. And I loved reading this post. Beautiful writing, and you couldn’t have put it better. There really are some people who completely rely on social media as their veritable identity. Keep up the great work! Lots of love xo

    1. Teekay

      4 May 2015 at 1:16 PM Reply

      Awww honey, you’re incredibly sweet and I’m grateful to have your “franc” feedback all the time. I appreciate you & your friendship more than you know. Always here for you too.

  2. ElleCooper

    2 May 2015 at 10:48 AM Reply

    Awesome! piece of writing.

    Smartphones have really taken over our lives, they’ve taken over real conversations and time. But as long as we’re aware of it then we can fix it, by setting limits, which will improve our social lives or rather “real lives”.
    I just wonder how life will be like 10 / 20 years from now. It certainly wasn’t like this 30 years ago.

    I like the Japanese culture whereby cellphones are not allowed during dinner, in trains etc. They practice the theory of having (conversations amongst yourselves)

    I had also taken a break from the cyber world and even though I’m back, I’ve set limitations.

    You are an inspiration. I like how everything about you is so authentic.


    1. Teekay

      4 May 2015 at 1:15 PM Reply

      Thank you Ellen for you beautiful feedback and always being such a great friend. Love you to infinity. ❤️

  3. Cara Siskova

    2 May 2015 at 5:45 PM Reply

    I guess it’s all about BALANCE… or the whole thing starts leaning towards the unhealthy side. Took me a while, but I think I’m figuring it out… Beautiful writing and lovely photos!

    1. Teekay

      4 May 2015 at 1:14 PM Reply

      Hi Cara,
      Balance indeed, is really what it is about. It’s funny how the realization only comes when you feel like you’re starting to lose yourself…Better late then never. Thank you for popping in. xxx


    6 May 2015 at 1:42 PM Reply

    looking amazing… that was a nice read 🙂

    1. Teekay

      8 August 2015 at 3:34 PM Reply

      Thank you love xx

  5. blogmoninstant

    7 May 2015 at 12:52 PM Reply

    Hi love !

    I adore this post, because it’s real and wise. I know how much you were putting into this blog/social media life of yours, and I know how generous you get – to the point that it devours you. I think we all need to fall in order to rise higher than ever, and you just did. There is a kind of act in all of this ‘blogging affair’, and we need to be clear between the “me who’s working as a blogger” and the “real me”. Finding the balance is essential yet pretty difficult to achieve. But I guess it comes along finding ourself, since we then get to know how much of us we can give to what.

    We definitely create an image that gets suffocating – as well as the “follower” as the “blogger”. But I believe real people, doing their best in their blog life, but yet reminding that they are not perfect but just human, will be the ideal ones. It’s not about being always right, on point, perfect, but genuine. We’re supposed to do this because we love it. If we lose this love, then it’s stupid.

    I think that you have a lot to bring to people, but you need to get something from them as well – and I’m not talking about “likes”, but I believe you got that. 😉 If blogging was just us “selling” something, then it would be pointless. But if it can be something that brings something good to our soul, then that’s it, we’ve reached the right balance. Blogging should not be stressing us out. Reading a blog / Watching a video should not make us feel like that’s what we should be / do.

    Okay, I already wrote too much – but you know me ! Also, I love your photos, you look very modern there ! Very “avant-gardiste” like we say in French. And very convinced on what you’re doing, which feels great to see as a viewer as well. 🙂

    I hope you are finding your own balance, it feels like you are at least !

    I love you very much, so take care ! Oh, and also …

    Welcome back Teekay. ♥

    1. Teekay

      8 August 2015 at 3:34 PM Reply

      I have no words to truly express how appreciative I am of your endless support and encouragement. Merci ma chère Marion adorée. Bisxx

  6. Liz Lizo

    1 July 2015 at 6:47 PM Reply

    OMG those shoes are to die for!

    – Liz

    1. Teekay

      8 August 2015 at 3:32 PM Reply

      Thank you hun xx

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